The Confident You

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While you are reading this, I want you to ask yourself these questions:

1. Am I confident with who I am right now?

2. When talking to a group of friends, how often do I give out my opinions?

3. Can I look myself closely at the mirror? Is it long enough?

4. When I am talking to the opposite sex, do I get nervous and absent-minded?

5. Can I express my feelings freely when talking to someone (especially to strangers)?

6. If I were to rate my confidence in percentage, how many percent would it be?

I believe some will run their ego here. They will say to themselves that "Yes, Yes, I'm confident, No I don't get nervous at all.." but they know deep inside that they are not. It is a bad attitude. You should change that. But let's say maybe you are really confident. But are you confident enough?

According to Cory Skyy (The Author of Magnetic Mindset), we have a huge mistake in setting things that we want. We require certain characteristics that our future partner should have. A good example could be that you want a confident girl with a sense of fashion. Actually that's good! You set your own standards, high standards. But have you ever realize that you are being unfair to your demands? How can you say that you want a confident girl when you yourself isn't confident at all? You want your girlfriend to have sense of fashion when you dress like  a jerk. You want a girlfriend who has sense of humor when you yourself keep cracking corny jokes. You want a girl who is friendly when you yourself hate crowds.Think about it. Have some talking to yourself. Do not be discouraged by these. Be open-minded. Accept reality. Accept who you are. Don't make a room for your pride/ego.

At this moment, maybe you are slowly realizing what things you are lacking. It's time to change them. Now is the time to change them.

Now open your notepad and list ALL the things you don't like about yourself. I remind you once again that  don't run your ego here. Then list all the solutions about your problems. In this part I can't give you the exact solutions that you need. I'll just give you a concise example: you want a girl with fashion then you should spend time with yourself at the mirror. Don't go out until you look good (You must not care whether you are fixing yourself for already an hour or more). In building your confidence, practice speaking in front of the mirror. You have to admit it. Right now, your bestfriend is the mirror. Now think of your own solutions and relax.

If you have already listed all the solutions, the last thing to do is to do/apply ALL of them. Act it. Be the change you want to be. You must be consistent. Accept the change. 

This is a slow process. It may take months or even years before you fully improve yourself.

And subtlety all your demands will be 'just' to you. You will later feel the reward. The feeling that you now have something, something worth holding on to.

The Confident You. 

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Remember that being confident and being boastful are two different things.